Author: nikki lincoln

Welcome to THE MOST self-centered month of the year

August is National Women’s Month in South Africa. Our social feeds are crammed with inspiring, “girl power” quotes and there are more self-care competitions that I ever imagine possible (don’t worry, we have one coming up soon too!). August is also Leo season and I suppose it’s the fact that we’re vag-deep in that whole “go girl, go” energy and the fiery, self-indulgent vibes of every Leo we know, but we are officially declaring August ‘THE MOST SELF-ABSORBED MONTH OF THE YEAR’. But in the best possible way.

This month Kim and I are BEGGING you to put yourself first, to embrace selfishness, to indulge in all the wonderful things and moments that fill you with joy. We want you to brag, we want you to highlight your workplace successes, we want you to snap a million selfies and strut like your life depends on it. Vanity has always gotten such a bad rep, and while I agree that excessive self-admiration isn’t a good thing, I also think that we have so much unlearning to do. I remember when I was a little girl, I used to love brushing my hair, I would sit in front of the mirror at my mom’s dressing table and brush my hair obsessively, one day my mom came by and asked me what I was doing, (wasn’t it obvious mom?!) and I told her that I was looking at my pretty face. She laughed and told me not to be too vain. I love my mom, but at that moment she taught me that admiring my appearance was bad. And it’s not. So we have a lot of unlearning to do. And this month is going to lay a little foundation for that.

FaceApp fucked with my chill, I freaked out about time and other things about July

July has been a weird month. I am sitting in bed typing this in the notes section of my phone because I am far too zen right now to even consider opening my laptop. July has been a weird month. For me and maybe for you too? I often think that I come across as vain or conceited. I post a lot of selfies on Twitter, I play with my hair and use my screen as a mirror when I do Instagram Stories, I generally come across as someone who is quite into herself. Recently I an article on the internet posed a very big opening question:

Are you conceited or just incredibly insecure?

July answered this question many times. I’m just really fucking insecure. In my search for digital validation and the perfect selfie, I have carved out this mask of confidence but underneath it is just this tired, kind of lonely woman who is terrified of ageing.

July has been a weird month. I am sitting in bed typing this in the notes section of my phone because I am far too zen right now to even consider opening my laptop. July has been a weird month. For me and maybe for you too? I often think that I come across as vain or conceited. I post a lot of selfies on Twitter, I play with my hair and use my screen as a mirror when I do Instagram Stories, I generally come across as someone who is quite into herself. Recently I an article on the internet posed a very big opening question:

Are you conceited or just incredibly insecure?

The Full-On Pleats Edit

I remember about 8 years ago I was at a second hand shop in Oslo and I bought this navy, floral pleated skirt, I was ahead of my time. Pleats have really waited quite some time for their moment in the sun and now it has finally arrived. Whether it’s a result of their vintage feel or undeniable timeless elegance is not important, to me, these pleated gems are an all-weather must-have. Even though pleats are having a moment, I would be very reluctant to call them a trend, if you want my opinion, they are here to stay.

If you’ve been following Kim and I for a bit, you’ll know that we believe (like in our hearts) that there are few items as versatile as a great pleated skirt. Pf course, if you’re new to the pleat game, it could be a little daunting to dip your toe in. There are 3 recurring questions we get on Instagram about pleated skirts:

Ace that job interview with these outfit and interview tips

I recently read Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg and it has changed my life and the way I look at my career and the impact I have on my own happiness with regards to work. As I said, there are so many people I know who are right now, at this very second, looking to make a change and going for a job interview is not unlike going on a date. We preen and prance and fluff and truss all in the hope that the person sitting on the opposite side of the table will see something worth investing in. And while your skills have a massive role to play in this process, your confidence and your belief in yourself does too.

Five Fabulous Friday Finds – #1

Friends! As I mentioned on Instagram earlier this morning, Kim and I are going to be introducing a new series to the blog, this is the new series by the way. We’ve realised (through our exploits in frugality) that we experience wonderful things every single week and not all of them are as a result of a purchase, we read, we eat, we meet, we experience… So every week, starting from today, we will be sharing five things that have truly sparked that joy during the course of the week.